It might be likely that our Leo man would draw to
himself Scorpio/Pluto people and situations in order to learn from them. And yes,
if he leaves her, he will find the same woman in a dozen other forms till his unconscious
attraction doesn’t hook him in. If he is mature enough to honor their
differences, to listen to his self-talk and to openly listen to her, then they
can still love and enjoy each other in their similarities and differences.
Here’s another interesting thing about couples: I’ve
been surprised to find that one person’s Saturn having a strong contact with
the other’s Sun or Moon (or a personal planet like Venus or Mars) actually
works like a “glue” in keeping two people together. (I’ve seen this when two
people say they want to divorce but keep coming back together.) It also works
with Neptune contacting the Sun or Moon because it can bring up mutual idealism
and intention.
To a certain extent this can even work with Saturn
conjuncting Venus or Mars, although these are harder, because Saturn/Venus can
often feel unloved in the relationship, and Saturn/Mars creates a situation
where one person wants to “go for it” and the other wants to be cautious and go
slow. But when these energies can be made conscious and each is aware of them,
the relationship can work quite well.
Pluto contacts between a couple can be the most
challenging, and I’d call them Red flags. I say this because Pluto likes to
work “under cover” so there’s usually a communication problem and one person,
or both, may be doing things secretly or doing things that unconsciously
undermine the relationship. Pluto contacts are powerful and a relationship can
work with them, but we can’t mince words here: they are about gritty
transformation and growth between two people and many people want comfort more
than You need to ask yourself how much
you can take on in a relationship. These contacts will push your buttons but if
you are resilient and willing to do the emotional uncovering that Pluto
contacts between two people create, well then go ahead.
Pluto often brings out issues around power
struggles, money, and sex. Pluto-Mars contacts can be manipulative or create
quite a power struggle at times, and with Pluto-Venus aspects there can be a
fear of intimacy or an ability to only be intimate for a short period of time
and then there needs to be space. People who have Venus-Pluto contacts in their
birth charts or in a relationship chart may often find that if one person is
away part time, like in the military or away on business quite a bit, this
contact can work very well. (Sue Tompkins book “Aspects in Astrology” explains
these contacts wonderfully.)
Pluto contacts can be seen as a red flag, but
sometimes they are also the kinds of relationships we get obsessive/compulsive
about and they can be very “juicy.” They’re Red! These contacts can be some of
the best for passionate affairs which are both ecstasy and torture. Or we see
the potential problems and decide that the gifts in the relationship are worth
the work. With Pluto, something will be activated in the deep psyches of each
person and great growth can happen….but if you’re looking for the phrase: “and
they lived happily ever after” then think again.
(To be continued...from "Lifting the Veil; Becoming Your Own Best Astrologer")
